We’ve spoken before on the word “flattering”, how it’s definition has been changed and skewed over time – especially within today’s image obsessed society. But – we should also discuss why this matters. Words can be very powerful – and unfortunately, it is often the negative words from others that stick with us.
In our ever increasingly visible world of social media – people’s opinions of us can come from across the globe, and with no responsibility, cloaked behind a username. It can often also be the people close to us – our loved ones – thinking they are “doing us a favor” by giving unsolicited “advice” on our appearance.
Why do we think other people’s appearances are up to us? Who do we think we are – judging, commenting, “advising” on what “flatters” someone? Perhaps – unless you are asked, it is better to keep comments on others’ bodies to yourself.
After all – the actual definition of flattering is “pleasing; gratifying” – and if someone is pleased with themselves – why would you want to screw that up?
I asked women of all sizes, shapes, ages, and ethnicity if there was ever a time (or times) when a stranger or loved one concluded they were the expert on their body and presentation – and decided to voice it. Tons upon tons of responses rolled in. I decided to invite some of these women to tell their stories, hand making them the exact kind of garment they were advised against wearing – not just to prove these “experts” wrong – but to show that their bodies are up to them, and them alone. And the only person that matters in the question of whether or not you’re “flattered” – is you.
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